Key takeaways from 'The Attitude Shift', a talk by Simon Tyler.
What better way to kick off a Friday morning than to attend an HBN breakfast event which offers up croissants, coffee and inspiring speakers? Oh, and did we mention it's absolutely free?
This morning we saw Simon Tyler take centre stage at The Glove Factory Studios to speak about why shifting attitudes in our everyday lives is key to boosting success and impact. As accredited author of The Impact Code, Simple Way and soon to be published, The Attitude Book, Simon's focus on recognising and simplifying our thoughts is refreshing and energising in a world where our minds are bombarded with distracting information.
We've summarised the key takeaways from the event.
Having got up early and battled the frosty morning to attend, Simon began by asking the group how they would feel if his talk had no impact on them at all. Disappointed, angry, resentful. These were just a few of the responses stirred up - (no pressure then Simon!) He then asked how we would feel going into the rest of the working day with this negative attitude. How would it affect our work? Our communication with others? The point was to highlight that we could choose to let it affect us... or not! It all depends on the attitude we choose to take.
Bad attitudes are sourced from the past. They attract stuff which confirms this attitude. Good attitudes are rooted just slightly in the future and equally attract stuff to confirm it.
Simon gave the analogy of two ends of a magnet attracting iron filings. The iron filings start attracting or repelling before the magnet has been fully connected with them. The same goes for us. At work, people will approach others with good attitudes in order to problem solve, by picking up on cues from someone's physicality, facial expression and perceived energy. Walking into a room with a smile and open body language has a knock on effect - attracting and promoting similar behaviours. Equally, if people pick up on negative attitude cues, the knock on effect is the spread of that negativity. And consistent "bad attitude drag" can actually change who you are.
Simon went on to speak about collective unhappiness and how it often goes unnoticed. In Britain we're renowned for accepting a collectively unhappy culture. But how exactly does one negative attitude filtrate through to a whole group or organisation? Typically from observation (whether it be on TV, in the news or through osmosis) or inheritance (from parents or the environment we exist in). When unhappiness is widespread, it can be seen as the cultural norm or "the ways things are" making the shift towards a positive attitude harder to implement as positive energy becomes quashed.
A paradigm shift is needed when it comes to shifting attitude. Breaking away from negative behavioural patterns to embrace positive ones is important, and we can start this process by observing other people's attitudes and seeing how these affect our own.
Consider your physicality and how you come across. When we're concerned about things we tend to hunch and lean forward, which can cause a negative, stressed series of thoughts. Asking simple, direct questions helps us to relax, stand up taller and subsequently we are more able to solve the task at hand or answer the question being posed to us. They key here is simplifying our thoughts.
We all process stuff that's nothing to do with right now. Remember, you're here now. Nowhere else. Act like it.
Simon highlighted a useful exercise to do when we feel distracted from the task at hand or feel overly stressed at work. When programs are causing our computers to crash, we tend to CTRL, ALT and Delete those programs in order for the computer to be clear about what we're asking from it. Why not apply this to ourselves? If you could CTRL, ALT, Delete the things that make you feel angry, worried or stressed, what would you delete? This activity helps us to recognise what we need to put our minds to in the current moment, and by clearing away the noise we gain focus, minimise stress, increase productivity and can be present in the moment.
Simon wrapped up the discussion by reminding us that whatever you think about, your brain will try to prove it to be true, by attracting other experiences that validate those thoughts. We are all on a spiral cycle and have the power to choose which direction we move in.
The thinker thinks, the prover proves.
If you'd like to find out about more upcoming HBN events, check out the Glove Factory Website.